Updated July 29, 2020
Do you want to find a Chinese girlfriend? How much do you know about the Chinese girls? Have you dated Chinese women before? Can you speak Mandarin Chinese, one of the most difficult languages? Well, I’m sure there are millions out there dreaming about dating Chinese girls. Despite some weird traits, these women are generally worth dating.
The Asian women inherently possess so many great qualities, such as nice figures, feminine, nurturing, caring, loyal, you name it. What’s more, the women here are not just attractive to the men, given the option; they’d prefer to date suitable foreign dudes as well!
In this post, let me go through some quick tips about finding a Chinese girlfriend online via China Love Cupid, one of the safest and secure ways of discovering your China love.
Why China Love Cupid?
There are so many reasons why I’d recommend China Love Cupid to the expats:
- The women at China Love Cupid are looking for dating foreigners, almost exclusively;
- Most of the women at China Love Cupid speak a decent level of English;
- They are more open minded and willing to date new expats (even if you are here for a short-term);
- They are mature women, with a good experience of dating (less likely to be a trouble making virgin, a common dating issue in the Asian countries);
- It’s kind of online dating. You can meet tons of suitable matches even if you are NOT yet landed in China;
- You can schedule multiple dates (pipelining) much before you land in China;
- A good number of profiles belong to the premium members. This is a good sign as the paid members are interested in a genuine relationship. Further, China Love Cupid is not all that expensive either;
- Even if you are 50+, you can meet suitable Chinese women on China Love Cupid.
How To Get Started With China Love Cupid?
Just Sign Up for a free account: China Love Cupid. Make a good profile. Add a couple of sexy pics. It’s okay to have a detailed profile as you are looking for meeting suitable women. The cupid algorithm would show you available matches. You shouldn’t have trouble in getting in touch with them. The first message should contain 你好 (Ni hao), means ‘Hello’ in Chinese.
Dating Communication
During the conversation, make sure to get connected on WeChat. You can give her your WeChat ID. WeChat has a great translation function. You should clarify that she is indeed single. If she is 30+ and single, it’s quite likely that she may have a history of marriage. You can ask her gradually. If you are not in China, go for a few video calls (don’t overdo it). In fact, it’s better to have a video call before first meet up.
You may be asked tons of personal questions, make sure to answer them well. 🙂
Set Up Multiple Dates
Don’t obsess on one woman. China Love Cupid provides you an unprecedented opportunity to meet a good number of suitable matches. You should invariably try to set up multiple dates. The more Chinese women you will meet and interact, the better you will understand dating in China.
Setting Up Dates
Let her know your availability in China. If you are already in China, invite her for a date (Yue hui, 约会). I prefer meet ups at 2pm. The first meet up should always be a coffee/drinks date, near your house. So that you can invite her back home.
Pay The Bill!
If you are dating a Chinese/Asian woman, you should never split the bills (especially during the first few dates). Be a man! Btw, guess how much is the price of a cup of coffee in China? RMB 35/cup at Starbucks. Not that expensive (US $1=RMB 7).
Logistics
Make sure you are staying in a single room, where the guests are allowed to visit anytime. A curfew (and security guards) may cause you to lose girls (especially, if you are bringing new guests home every now and then). 🙂 If you are staying in a hotel, most likely, bringing a guest shouldn’t be an issue. However, hostels and family owned guesthouses may have issues.
On Date
Keep calm. Speak slowly. Don’t use long sentences.
It’s highly likely that your China Love Cupid date would speak a decent level of English. However, it’s good to know basic Chinese.
Google Translate dates are boring. Don’t be that guy. Practice some Mandarin Chinese phrases. Ask her questions about hobbies, traveling experience, education, etc. It’s good to ask about weather, food and travel attractions in her hometown. In case you don’t know what to ask, just ask her anything about China, such as Chinese food, culture, songs…
Invite Her To Your Place
As you meet on a date, and grab drinks, make sure you talk to her about 30-40 minutes.
Then, indirectly, suggest a relationship. You could just ask her: I think you are a very interesting girl. I am a foreigner, new to China. What if we explore our time together? What do you think?
In fact, most of the Chinese women know that the foreigners are very fast in terms of dating and relationship.
However, most likely, she will say one of the following:
- It’s too fast
- Let’s first become friend
- Do you mean we should become girlfriend/boyfriend?
You should just continue: “I don’t mean to become girlfriend/boyfriend immediately; however, we can start getting to know more about each other, gradually. Is that ok with you?”
If she agrees, then you are up. Hold her hand, and tell her, “I promise to respect you, always.”
Point being, the women in China tend to be quite insecure, and you’ll need to assure her that you are not a “bad man”. Chinese history is full of examples of such “bad men”, who practically exploited the women.
A few minutes more chatting, and invite her back home. Tell her: “I have been learning Chinese for a few days, and just bought a couple of books. Maybe I can show you my books? Do you mind teaching me some Chinese?”
In case she doesn’t agree to be together in the first place, you should still invite her to your place.
In any case, although I can’t rule out the possibilities, sex on a first date is not that common in China. In fact, even if you only had mild kissing (on the hand or forehead), on the very first date, you have made a great progress. I bet!
Further, most of the women, who are okay with sex on a first date, are likely to have some other issues, such as scams.
During one of my first dates, I took the girl back to home. She was 21, undergraduate year 3, and very open minded (had dated an Armenian dude she met during Europe trip). It was a great sex. After the first round, we were chatting for a while, then we decided to try some SM! Then I’d bind her. What a freaking BDSM on a first date! She even suggested “safe word”. However, we didn’t meet again. She wanted money.
As another example, I remember banging a gorgeous married woman (32). She drove a car, looked wealthy, and even had a 4-year-old son! Later on, she asked me for RMB 5000. The second meet up never happened. I’m sure her husband is screwed up for a long time.
First date sex is often a fraud! They will give you the best possible sex, then wouldn’t agree for a second meet up. After a few days, her mom will become ill, and she needs some money to go the hospital… you know the shit now.
You should keep your eyes open for the signals.
It’s worth mentioning that if the sex didn’t happen in 3 dates and one month is gone, something is rotten, I will sense shit.
After She Leaves
After the first date, as she is about to leave, tell her to text you once she is home. When she texts you, just say a simple line, such as: “Thanks for coming.”
It’s good to not have too much of chatting immediately after the first date is over.
Next Meet Ups
Depending on the first date chemistry, I generally invite them after 4-5 days. The second date is generally a meal, in a good restaurant. Then bring her home from the restaurant. In general, sex on the second date hasn’t been an issue.
In China, the couple need to be girlfriend/boyfriend even before holding hands. That is to say, if you have been on a couple of dates, and already had sex, in all likelihood, she will treat you as a boyfriend. Congratulations!
To sum up, finding a Chinese girlfriend online via China Love Cupid is very much possible. Being white may help, however, the Asian women focus a hell lot on getting married and long-term relationships. Let her know that she will be safe and fine with you. Make sure to not creep her out. If you are coming to China for a long-term job, your chances of scoring with a Chinese women are much higher.
-Best